Never Force Yourself Back Into Society

[OutcastedOutcast]

There's a reason why you have been rejected in the first place.

Take that and leave it as that and walk away. Don't look back.

One of the biggest mistakes of men like us, is that we get baited into trying to fit back into society once again.
"You need to get a job."
"Why can't you just be like the others?"
"It's because you don't try to fit in is why they hate you."
Sound familiar?

Problem is that the system and the people know we are not them. The way we act and look are all off.
Trying to fit in will only increase your suffering.

You will constantly need to prove yourself to people in the real world. They already made up their minds of people like us. From the very first second they saw us, they knew something was off. Even if you mask your pain, they will notice it. They have a keen eye for looking for vulnerabilities.

You will forever be clawing your way to be validated till your an old man.

Remember this. They will always hate you.
They hated you when you were good.
They hated you when you did what they said you should do and be.
They hate you no matter what you do.
Don't fall for their lies and try to fit in with them. Why would you want to suffer more?

Save yourself the headache and pain by cutting everyone out of your life unless they are close to you. Learn to be with yourself. You'll be uncomfortable at first but you'll get used to it eventually.

Just don't. Yes work and do what's needed to survive.
But don't try to fit in. Don't talk to them. Don't try to be friendly. Just accept that your in this position and do your best to live quietly and peacefully from there on.

You will regret embarking on trying to seek their approval. Just when your about to feel like everything's coming together, they'll push you out and rattle you around to remind you of your place beneath them as they see it.

[whitemonster]

They kinda have a subhuman detector.
They are like predators.

[Tovarishcel]

You will regret embarking on trying to seek their approval. Just when your about to feel like everything's coming together, they'll push you out and rattle you around to remind you of your place beneath them as they see it.

that last sentence really got me

[Pour_Lui]

True

[Sustacel250]

Trying to fit in will only increase your suffering.

I agree and reached same conclusion. I mean I am agreeing 95%

I achieved a social fit. I mean when I was 21 I acted autistically and motivated by life coach ideology I decided to "give it a try". So I read negotiation manual, 1 book of psychology for literature (how to create psychologically accurate characters), read body language manual. I perform improvised training. At the time I was in a room in university with another guy and he was having fun watching me performing in the mirror.

My idea is I perform and copy the normies. I heard they call it "pacing and leading" in the CIA communities. In other words, I performed stances and postures. I started also smoking ciggies. I learned the ciggies gestures.

And then I went on stage, talked to the normies. I inserted myself into a normie circle occupying space with my frame. I interrupted girls while talking and self-inserted. All successes. Few failures.

Basically my idea is yes you can normie your way in society by doing what I did. Its not impossible and is more common than it seems. A ton of people we call "normies" are doing exactly that, they normie they way out of issues. you see it in normie workplaces most especially. You should read the comic "dilbert" where the normies developed hyper efficient survival strategies to adapt to hostile mechanized lifestyle.

Overall the thing is it can be done. Even ultra ugly people can do it, not without paying enormous social costs and incredible losses. For example danny de cuckito (danny the vito) became the butt of normie jokes in hopes of being integrated. Hop frog (allan poe) is a realistic story of a normie who burned them at the end. You can hope the normies are reserving the role of the clown in your classroom so you can slip outside of social roles by performing it. What if normies dont have the jester role available? Well even in that case you can "fit in", but not without paying tremendous costs.

What the exp taught me is simply Im not willing to pay the costs of adaptation. My reasoning is close to yours. I just evaluated the worth, the costs and what I was doing and what I had to endure. I realized theres simply no way I can justify these costs. I was not getting pussy, the so called "friends" I was making were valueless, society is in shambles anyway. My evaluation is I would put more effort to gain basically nothing of value.

Start smoking ruined my health, and was difficult to stop. Conformity costs me too much. conform to what? to decaying norms in a decaying society? I concluded is simply not worth the cost.

[Sustacel250]

You will regret embarking on trying to seek their approval. Just when your about to feel like everything's coming together, they'll push you out and rattle you around to remind you of your place beneath them as they see it.

To be honest they seek approval. You will instead find yourself in a situation where you are giving them the approval and they seek you for that approval.

I seen a ton of these people so glad you talk to them they consider you a messiah. I met even a couple without friends when I was in the gym, they brought a cake to my apartment.

People who are destitute and isolate are endless, the entire society is increasing the caste of marginalized people. Theres more homeless than before. So try this: go to a homeless and bring a bottle of liquor. Put the bottle of liquor near the homeless.

Or, buy a pack of cigarettes give it to a homeless. Notice how he instantly befriends you.

With the university students, talk to one randomly "hey what you study". And then from that place you end up talking of their favorite music genre.

Basically socializing is super easy. If you really want to try something easy go to the homeless and as I told you is as easy as bringing liquors and eventually some buds of weeds. Is super easy. From there onward youre "their friend".