I was thinking of quitting incel identity.
Posted: 19 Mar 2026, 06:52
Bit of backstory. When I was younger they called me "gay" bcause I wasnt approaching girls, nor I showed any apparent interest in them. A social identity present in my days was "nerd". But I wasnt fitting the "nerd" label either.
Simply put I didnt have a rationalization, I didnt know how to call myself or what social identity to represent. Describing myself I would say I was definitely interested in women, but to me all girls around me were invisible, useless, and their incentives and peer pressure did nothing on me. Because I was very single minded, focused on my copes and so on.
So when incel identity became popular on the internet, I was one of the first to take it and use it. In other words I simply decided I needed a social identity and give name my place in the world, because interactions with normies made me think I needed a role to express in front of them. To be precise, I thought I was asked to justify my existence. I mean as if I was judged and then I had to invent a label. Probably if I was teen nowadays I would pick one of the recent innovations in language like aromantic or whatever they created. I think if I was teen nowadays, I would surely be interested in the language of gender studies but I would have a problem with the LGBT political identity.
One thing a teen today has access to is multiple identities like "gooner" or "weeb" or "outcast". Incel too, but incel identity was transformed over time.
The thing is, contemporary incels took over, and there is simply nothing of the past identity that represents me. Starting out I dont see incels as "a problem that needs fixing". What problem? I mean my diagnoses identified various problems of various natures. Problems of mental illness, problems of joblessness and lack of housing, problems of marginalization and problems related to the redpill false rationalizations. The fact one is "incel" isnt a problem to me, why would I problematicize someone existence.
I mean if you are not "dating" and you arent socially integrated, maybe you have no "problems to fix" and you are simply made in that way. In my case for example I reject the dating ideology, obviously I am not dating. How could I be dating? I mean I already said I rejected that ideology, why would I engage in dating?
I rejected marriage ideology, obviously I am not married. It would be completely incoherent if I married but I wrote all my life essays on how marriage is trash. It seems obvious to me, that the sum of my life choices resulted in me not marrying. Because I spent 15 years criticizing it, do you think someone who criticizes marriage for 15 years will ever marry? If he did, then he would be kinda gay and hypocritical.
The incel problem, I think, is that it isnt anymore a neutral identity, or a situation where you simply describe yourself or find a group you interat with. The mainstream media is right, they call it "an ideology". It is an ideology at this point, its also a digital identity at the same time. To be incel means to accept a sequence of preconceived notions about girls, to accept you have to "fix your problem", using reactionary ideologies and so on. I mean, they program you online givng you false beliefs. The situation could have been neutral and you could have been someone with a social identity. But it isnt neutral at this point in time.
I believe is time to reject the ideological package. Fuck that shit. I mean, I dont want to "fix the incel problem" because there is no problem. There is no single problem I mean. There are collections of separated issues like homelessness or joblessness or social isolation or issues in mating practices. These are all issues that deserve a separated analysis for each of them. To believe an identity is "a problem" is a step m not willing to do. I think people like me will always exist in any point in time, because theres always someone who isnt described by prevailing norms in his society. At times that person becomes irrelevant or ostracized, other times he becomes known for something he did.
In any case, who cares about incel identity. It has too much baggage. I also find it hard and troublesome to justify it in front of normies. I get too much hatred, I dont even deserve it. And I resent the fact I have to stick my neck out and get slashed for things I dont even do. I dont go arund writing "i want to rape women" on an online forum, I dont hate women, i dont want to submit women. Its getting tiresome to defend these assholes who stole my identity.
So I invented a new one: daywalker. From now on im not incel, im a daywalker.
Simply put I didnt have a rationalization, I didnt know how to call myself or what social identity to represent. Describing myself I would say I was definitely interested in women, but to me all girls around me were invisible, useless, and their incentives and peer pressure did nothing on me. Because I was very single minded, focused on my copes and so on.
So when incel identity became popular on the internet, I was one of the first to take it and use it. In other words I simply decided I needed a social identity and give name my place in the world, because interactions with normies made me think I needed a role to express in front of them. To be precise, I thought I was asked to justify my existence. I mean as if I was judged and then I had to invent a label. Probably if I was teen nowadays I would pick one of the recent innovations in language like aromantic or whatever they created. I think if I was teen nowadays, I would surely be interested in the language of gender studies but I would have a problem with the LGBT political identity.
One thing a teen today has access to is multiple identities like "gooner" or "weeb" or "outcast". Incel too, but incel identity was transformed over time.
The thing is, contemporary incels took over, and there is simply nothing of the past identity that represents me. Starting out I dont see incels as "a problem that needs fixing". What problem? I mean my diagnoses identified various problems of various natures. Problems of mental illness, problems of joblessness and lack of housing, problems of marginalization and problems related to the redpill false rationalizations. The fact one is "incel" isnt a problem to me, why would I problematicize someone existence.
I mean if you are not "dating" and you arent socially integrated, maybe you have no "problems to fix" and you are simply made in that way. In my case for example I reject the dating ideology, obviously I am not dating. How could I be dating? I mean I already said I rejected that ideology, why would I engage in dating?
I rejected marriage ideology, obviously I am not married. It would be completely incoherent if I married but I wrote all my life essays on how marriage is trash. It seems obvious to me, that the sum of my life choices resulted in me not marrying. Because I spent 15 years criticizing it, do you think someone who criticizes marriage for 15 years will ever marry? If he did, then he would be kinda gay and hypocritical.
The incel problem, I think, is that it isnt anymore a neutral identity, or a situation where you simply describe yourself or find a group you interat with. The mainstream media is right, they call it "an ideology". It is an ideology at this point, its also a digital identity at the same time. To be incel means to accept a sequence of preconceived notions about girls, to accept you have to "fix your problem", using reactionary ideologies and so on. I mean, they program you online givng you false beliefs. The situation could have been neutral and you could have been someone with a social identity. But it isnt neutral at this point in time.
I believe is time to reject the ideological package. Fuck that shit. I mean, I dont want to "fix the incel problem" because there is no problem. There is no single problem I mean. There are collections of separated issues like homelessness or joblessness or social isolation or issues in mating practices. These are all issues that deserve a separated analysis for each of them. To believe an identity is "a problem" is a step m not willing to do. I think people like me will always exist in any point in time, because theres always someone who isnt described by prevailing norms in his society. At times that person becomes irrelevant or ostracized, other times he becomes known for something he did.
In any case, who cares about incel identity. It has too much baggage. I also find it hard and troublesome to justify it in front of normies. I get too much hatred, I dont even deserve it. And I resent the fact I have to stick my neck out and get slashed for things I dont even do. I dont go arund writing "i want to rape women" on an online forum, I dont hate women, i dont want to submit women. Its getting tiresome to defend these assholes who stole my identity.
So I invented a new one: daywalker. From now on im not incel, im a daywalker.