If you want to have friends, a spouse, have a good job, live a full and prosperous life, and have the respect of your colleagues, you "would have to be a good and kind person, be helpful, have character, personality, and apologize if you offend anyone." That was the mantra for many years, at least when I was growing up.
It's only later that I realized, slowly at first, and then like a ton of bricks, that this was all hogwash. Bullshit. The above doesn't make you a man; it makes you timid and weak.
People, and other men in particular, only respect ONE thing. And that's your ability to (legally) hurt others. Threaten their job, their paycheck, take resources from them, threaten to sue them, etc. That's how men get ahead, and get pussy, and we all know it. Your character, or how you treat others, counts for Zero. If you can't hurt anyone, you will be ignored, forgotten, exploited and discarded. That's a basic fact of nature. The lion would not try to eat the gazelle if the gazelle had a gun.
It may sound pessimistic in the opinions of some, but humans are essentially wild animals who have invented smart phones and shoes. When it comes to our priorities for a mate, we're no different from wild chimpanzees.
Kind of how like women only appreciate physical appearance. Your kindness and character are meaningless.
